Happy 50 years old mom

"There was a time when I thought I would never want children. Now, I can’t imagine a life without the two beautiful boys I had in my 40′s. When I was younger, I didn’t expect to need help conceiving. I started trying at 28, but after a year nothing had happened. My husband and I went for all of the necessary testing and I was finally diagnosed as having “unexplained infertility”.

 Our fertility specialist suggested Intrauterine Insemination (IUI). Since we didn’t know the cause of our infertility, we figured it was a crap-shoot as to what would finally bring us a baby! While our first IUI was a success, it turned out to be a blighted ovum—a fertilized egg that implants but never turns into a baby. Devastated doesn’t begin to describe the feeling I felt when I received the news! We tried again…and again…and again. We must have blown through eight or nine more IUIs before I realized that I was turning 31 soon. At this point doctor suggested to go for an IVF consultation with a Reproductive Endocrinologist.

 After the consult, we decided we would proceed with an IVF. We were, like most newbie IVF’ers, positive it would work the first time! Well, it didn’t. The second attempt was a bust as well. This is when the doctor unceremoniously told me that my eggs were shot, and that I had to use donor eggs.

I just couldn’t fathom not using my own eggs, not seeing some part of me, or my family, in this wee little face. We decided to go to another attempts and two IVFs later I received the same news at the age of 33, though this time it was with a bit more compassion.

That’s when I made some life changes. I took a few months off from cycling just to wrap my head around everything that had transpired.

I rearranged my life, got a new job in a different field, and tried a few more IUIs just in case there happened to be that one stray good egg in there! But I was about to turn 36 years old—and labeled as “advanced maternal age”. To give birth to another child, I would have to accept and embrace the changes my body had gone through, and decide the best and most acceptable course of action. I was now filled with a new and exciting sense of hope!

We began our search online, and met with several donor agency coordinators. It was a difficult search, and finally we came upon a wonderful woman who seemed to fulfill everything we were looking for in a donor. She even looked a bit like me and had a similar background!

After the legalities, we started a cycle. She and I both followed every instruction from the clinic, and 3 months later, the phone rang, I nearly fell off my chair! It was the doctor with some wonderful news…I was pregnant!

I think I held my breath the entire nine months until my little baby came out healthy and beautiful! And I was 3 months into my 41st year!

But it wasn’t over yet. Three years later we decided to try for a sibling. We had a few frozen embryos left from the last cycle, and two had survived the thaw, so we had them transferred. Unfortunately they did not implant.

Worse, our first donor was now unavailable. It took a couple of years, and two more donors who failed the criteria, before we found the perfect donor who had passed all of her screening tests. With greatest fortune we conceived our second child when I was 49. He was born just 3 months shy of my 50th birthday!

It’s funny, but despite a fertility journey lasting more than two decades, I can’t imagine anything I would do differently! It took all of those experiences to become the mom that I am today! I am so filled with love for my beautiful family—calm, collected, and fulfilled".

Surrogacy as the last throw of the dice

Surrogacy is seldom the first choice on the journey to build a family. Often people come to surrogacy after trying and exhausting other options such as intrauterine insemination (IUI), in vitro fertilization (IVF) and gamete intrafallopian transfer (GIFT). In some cases medical issues, such as absence of a uterus, impaired uterus, or a chronic health problem, make it impossible or unsafe for the intended mother to carry a child. Sharing a pregnancy with a carrier (the woman carrying the child) may be the right option for you if involvement with the pregnancy and prenatal care, genetics and being present for the birth of your child are important.

Until recently, stories in the popular press were about traditional surrogacy, where the surrogate is inseminated with sperm from the infertile woman’s husband, and the carrier is genetically linked to the child. Today, most couples who build their families through surrogacy choose gestational surrogacy, also known as gestational care. In gestational care, the intended mother or an egg donor provides the egg and the intended father or a sperm donor provides the sperm. The resulting embryo is transferred to the gestational carrier, who has no genetic connection to the child.

After three miscarriages and years of infertility, Sharon didn’t give up her dream of having children. Once it became clear that pregnancy wasn’t a viable option, she and her husband Dan became interested in surrogacy, where they could both be genetically connected to the child. They also investigated adoption and resolving without children.

Sharon: “All my life I expected that I would have children. After years of failed infertility treatment, my husband and I had almost given up. We didn’t have the energy or emotional stamina to keep trying. I thought adoption was my only alternative until our doctor suggested that we consider gestational care. As hard as that was to hear, I realized I could have a genetic child and be very close to the pregnancy even if I wasn’t carrying the child myself. It was so exciting to be at that first ultrasound and see my child’s heartbeat! It has turned a very painful beginning into a very hopeful future.”

Dan: “What a nightmare this has been for both of us, especially for my wife. After each miscarriage, what we took for granted began to seem like it might not happen. I have seen the pain in my wife’s eyes as she has come to terms with the fact that she is unable to carry a baby. I have always supported my wife but have also realized my own deep desire to have a child who will carry on the traits of my family. It may sound selfish, but I wanted to have a child who might be blessed with my mom’s musical talents or have my dad’s sparkly eyes. For me, surrogacy is as close as we can come to having our child in the “usual” way.”

Before deciding to use a surrogate, you (and your partner) should consider the following questions:

Are you ready to move on from current infertility treatments?

How do you feel about someone else carrying your child?

Are both partners ready to do this?

How will you explain the pregnancy and birth to others and eventually to your child?

It is important that you and the carrier speak to a mental health professional specializing in infertility about these and other concerns. A mental health screening can help ensure that all parties have considered all matters. It will also help to determine if you and your carrier are compatible.

Surrogacy in Ukraine. Legal aspect

Ukraine is one of a very few surrogacy friendly countries in Europe. The legal advantages of conducting surrogacy here are the following:

• commercial or paid surrogacy agreements are allowed without limitation of remuneration to be received by a gestational mother;
• no decision of a Special Committee is required;
• no court order is required;
• no further adoption procedure is required;
• birth certificate is issued to the name of the intended parents immediately after the child’s birth;
• gestational mother has no legal right to be deemed as a legal mother of a child she delivered while participating in the surrogacy program. Only intended parents are considered to be legal parents of the child born by the gestational mother. Comparatively cheap value of Gestational Surrogacy Agreement.

The following Legal Acts regulate the surrogacy in Ukraine:

1.  Family Code of Ukraine;
2. ‘On Vital Statistics Registration’, Law of Ukraine of 07/01/2010 No. 2398/VI;
3. ‘Rules for Vital Statistic Registration in Ukraine’ of 10/18/2000 No. 52/5;
4. ‘Instruction on Procedures for Assisted Reproductive Technologies’, Order of the Ministry of Health No. 771 of 12/23/2008;
5. ‘On Citizenship of Ukraine’, Law of Ukraine of No. 2235-III of 01/18/2001;
6. ‘Procedure of Entry to Ukraine for Foreigners and Stateless Persons, their Exit from Ukraine and Transit through its Territory’, Decree of the Cabinet of Ministers of Ukraine No. 1074 of 12/29/1995.

The Family Code of Ukraine, which came into force on 01/01/2004, has legalized surrogacy in Ukraine making the Ukrainian law one of the most favorable in the World in respect of surrogacy and fully supporting the individual’s reproductive rights. It stipulates the following:

Article 123. Maternal and Paternal Affiliation of the Child Born As a Result of Assisted Reproductive Technologies

1. If the wife delivers the child conceived using Assisted Reproductive Technology, upon written consent of her husband, the latter shall be registered as the father of the child born by his wife, (remark: is applicable also to Traditional Surrogacy)

2. If the embryo conceived by the spouses using Assisted Reproductive Technology is transferred into the body of another woman, the spouses shall be the parents of the child. (remark: Gestational Surrogacy)
3. The spouses shall be considered as the parents of the child, born by the wife, when an embryo conceived by her husband and another woman was transferred into the wife’s body.

In surrogacy terms, Clause 1 of Article 123 may apply to Traditional Surrogacy: if there is a couple where the wife is impregnated with the sperm of the commissioning father (usually through artificial insemination), she is both the genetic and gestational mother of the child. This means that, of course, she may waive her maternal right in favor of commissioning father, but, legally speaking, the letter of law always takes her side and protects her maternal right. In case she officially waives her maternal right before insemination, she as the genetic mother may always change her mind – during the pregnancy or upon delivery and the right of the commissioning father will not be protected. Again, legally speaking, in usual circumstances no court order will be issued in Ukraine to protect the commissioning father in case the surrogate wishes to keep the child with her. For this reason, the traditional surrogacy is not involved in the article.

Clause 2 of Article 123 expressly stipulates gestational surrogacy relations. Thus, we may conclude that Gestational Surrogacy is absolutely legal in Ukraine. According to said provision the child is legally considered to be the child of the intended parents from the very moment of conception. The surrogate can’t keep the child after the birth under any reason and may get remuneration for her service in the any amount agreed as well as compensation for actual expenses.

BioTexCom medical center presents people happiness!

If you have any problems with baby conceiving, male or female infertility BioTexCom center knows how deal with it!

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List of Centres for human reproduction

Name	Top list	Description
IGR	4+	Good results, but horrifying service, insanitary conditions.
BioTexCom	4+	Young clinic, good results and service, high prices.
ISIDA	4	A beautiful clinic, excellent service, but the results are not good enough.
KievHorStroy Clinic	4	Good results, but unreasonably high prices.
Dahno	4	Good results, average service.
Alternativa	4	Good results, average service.
ART clinic	3+	Good service, bad results.
Implant clinic	3	Great service, average results
Nadiya	3	Average results, average service.
Genesis clinical association	3-	Average service, bad results
Prikarpatsky reproduction centre	2	Lack of staff, bad location, bad results
Academical Clinic	2	Bad results, old equipment
Healthy Family Research Institute	2	Bad results, average service, old equipment
Intersono Medical Centre	2-	Bad results, average service, old equipment
Professor A.M. Feskov’s clinic	1+	Insanitary conditions, no results
REMEDI	1+	Bad results, bad service
Chernovtsy Reproduction Centre	1	Bad results, no service
Neomed	1-	No results, no pregnancies, insanitary conditions, shutdown is planned.

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Stress affects fertility. Don’t worry, be happy!

Stress can cause women infertility. Such is a result of the new study. It explains some cases when couples were diagnosed a case of infertility for no discernible reason. The problem can become a vicious cycle: people are nervous because conception does not begin for a long time, and it does not happen just because the couple is under stress.

Doctors have noticed that there is a relationship between the total stress of everyday life and infertility. Infertile women are always recommended to avoid stress situations. According to the statistic about one of 7 couples has fertility problems. About quarter of them do not receive any medical explanation of such problem. Their diagnosis is "unexplained infertility".

Research group Courtney Denning-Johnson Lynch gathered saliva samples of 373 women who have just started trying to conceive a child in a natural way. Then scientists measured the level of alpha - amylase enzyme, marker of stress in these samples. Total scientists observed 501 women at the age of 18 - 40.

After a year of regular unprotected sex about 13 % of couples could not get pregnant. Third of women who had the highest alpha - amylase rate were in the infertile group.

According to Dr. Lynch, stress may be responsible for some cases of unexplained infertility. Understanding of this fact can help couples to take the necessary measures. He says "If you have some trouble conceiving a baby during about five - six months it is reasonable to seek some way to relieve stress. It is known that yoga, meditation, or just a normal daily training significantly reduce stress. It’s better to try to find the method that suits your lifestyle best of all".

Foreign magazines also write about all advantages of the BioTexCom clinic. Here you can read about us in foreign press

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