Adoption or surrogacy

As of today about 2.5 million children - orphans and children deprived of parental care are registered in Europe. More than half of them have different kinds of disabilities. Very often couples who faced with the problem of infertility and can not have children of their own due to medical reasons adopt children from orphanages. Many foreign couples adopt children from Ukrainian or Russian orphanages as abroad the adoption procedure is rather complex and long-running. Citizens of Spain, Italy, Israel, France and the United States most often adopt Ukrainian children.

People who have hunkered down to such an important step as adoption usually cause a great respect and support of the community unlike surrogate motherhood, which stick pins and hot debates and is considered to be rather  immoral decision. So, for example, according to statistics, each year about 700 Italian couples leave the territory of Ukraine with children born by a surrogate mother. The figures are not less concerning infertile families of other European countries. Contacting appropriate authorities in their home country to obtain a needed certificate for the child parents face with the censures and reproaches that surrogacy is contraries to ethical, moral and religious norms and concepts. As a result at home people who have used services of surrogate mother receive the so-called stigma and family falls under the watchful eye of special state agencies. Another thing is adoption of a child who has lost parental love and care and even more so if he is a toddler with special needs.

Adopting, for example, a child with heart defect, cerebral palsy, HIV positive, or a child with one leg, hand (there are more than a half of such children in orphanages) you give him a chance to develop in real family, with all its components, sometimes even saving his life. In addition, in such way you make a significant contribution to the solution of a large-scale social problem of child parentlessness. Married couples who express a desire to adopt a child with disabilities are given certain privileges and such adoption process goes on much faster than in the case of a healthy child.

Today, surrogacy is the main alternative to adoption. Despite the worldwide condemnation surrogacy and "test-tube babies" procedures gain serious speed and are rather hot among infertile couples all over the world.

In the case of surrogacy when strange woman bears a child after his birth she immediately writes an official rejection and gives biological parents a baby. And in this situation you have a job to make all things correctly. You are alone with a newborn baby who cries all the time and you can not understand why, child needs hourly feeding, changing of diapers, etc. While adopting a child you have an opportunity to take an older child. Of course he can be from a difficult family (usually child’s parents are drug, alcohol addicted, carriers of the AIDS virus or various genetic diseases) with a negative heredity and bad habits. But you have a good grip on the situation: re-education, teaching, familiarity with the new civilized world, etc.

Surrogate child who is genetically yours will make you go through all the stages of development that has a lot of pros and cons. Yes, you will easily prepare all necessary documents in which black and white will be written that you are the biological parents of a child, he has your last name and you can choose his own name. But in addition you will have to bravely survive facing the society’s opposition. Although, as one writer said: "Each of us has his own difficulties, its measure and methods to overcome. Unnecessary comparisons are not needed”.